Another key factor in wishing to be someone else is the need for external validation. In professional settings, rewards often come to those with career titles, high performance metrics, or prestigious connections, which can make us feel that we need to conform to these standards to be valued. When we don’t meet these expectations, we may feel inadequate or overlooked.
To counter this, it’s very important to cultivate a sense of self-worth that isn’t dependent on external validation. Focus on internal growth and fulfillment, rather than seeking approval from others. Setting personal goals and defining success on your own terms allows you to reclaim your sense of identity and feel more at ease with who you are at the moment, rather than aspiring to be someone else.
This is not to say that you shouldn't feel disappointed when your efforts aren’t recognized, or that you shouldn’t aspire to be a top performer so you are also rewarded. It just means that your sense of worth shouldn’t be tied solely to these external factors. You can find fulfillment regardless of external recognition by focusing on what truly matters to you and taking pride in your personal growth.